handbook... by Jon Thorne (Head coach)


As a coach, parent, and trainer, I see it over and over again. Courses designed to mould others to do the same activities in the same standardised way. Courses designed to make students mould themselves to win acceptance.

I want to get back to the basics of personal development. I want to help others improve themselves, not by moulding them, but by unfolding them.

A good way to unfold the best version of ourselves

A good way to find new ways to unfold ourselves is to try new things. To risk failure. To be kind to ourselves and others as we create, discover and invent. To forgive ourselves of all our mistakes, as mistakes mean we are learning. And to be kind to others by seeing their mistakes as their own learning. To encourage ourselves and others to make mistakes. To encourage ourselves and each other to express ourselves. No blaming. To adapt to improve the balance between meeting our needs, the needs of others, with the needs of the situation we share. To make our shared situation work for everyone. To see it as an act of unkindness for us to force, manipulate, trap, coerce others to fit a mould.

  • “Why do I dream? So that I can come back to what I know. So that I can see the place I came from with new eyes and extracolors. And the people there see me differently, too. Coming back to where I started is not the same as never leaving.” Sir Terry Pritchett
  • "Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning” - Gloria Steinem
  • “You can’t connect the dots looking forward: you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future” - Steve Jobs
My free handbook shares two goods ways for coaches, teachers, trainers to help others develop themselves, not my moulding them, but by unfolding them. And 6 habits I used to help myself to transition from moulding others to unfolding others.

Any questions, are welcome

Any questions, contact Jon.Thorne@CommunitySport.club